I’ve spent the past few days since the Gay Marriage vote having mixed feelings about the result. Whilst I welcome greater equality and acceptance for homosexuals, I believe that government has no business sanctioning or prohibiting the relationships of consenting adults – homosexual or otherwise.
There is also a bigger question: are we moving towards a greater tolerance of diverse relationships and lifestyles – or is society mostly only happy to tolerate gay couples if they behave just like straight monogamous couples? We still haven’t shaken off the cloying vestiges of Victorian Morality.
We are slowly seeing more calls to tolerate individuals who choose to be part of polyamourous relationships but few discussions as to what role government should play, if any. I can’t help feeling that we missed an opportunity to re-examine the role of government in the relationships between consenting adults and this leads me to question whether we are really moving forward in a progressive fashion.
It’s also important to remember that progress looks like indifference – not toleration. If you see a gay couple and you think, “Oh, there’s a gay couple. I am happy to tolerate them,” that’s not progress. We will know we have achieved progress when more and more who see a gay couple don’t have any type of thoughts whatsoever.